While many children have gone through much worse than I have. I have a testimony to share. My message is, "If I can come out of it and have a good life, you can too."
If you've been following me for long, you may already know, but I'll try to briefly share to bring everyone else up to speed.
I was a teen pregnancy. My mother left when I was a baby and I did not meet her until I was eight years old. My father was an abusive alcoholic. My step-mother did not like me. I found out in adulthood that my dad had an affair with my mother when my first half-brother was born. Since I looked almost exactly like my mother, I'm sure it was a constant reminder to her of his infidelity. She and her family were not unkind to me, just unloving.
At about the age of five, I was sent to a Vacation Bible School. I remember the message like it was yesterday and it is the same message I have used in leading my own children to the Lord. I gave my heart to Jesus, because I didn't think I would live to grow up.
Other than a few VBS and Sunday School visits, I was not raised in church or in a Christian upbringing. I was raised to be a new age medicine woman and could do tarot cards, automatic writing and over the phone readings at a young age.
I moved in with my drug-addict birth mother at the age of 10 and watched her get abused by several men. I had a job of some sort from the age of 11 to help feed myself and purchase my necessities.
While I attended church as often as I could, I also made several mistakes of my own. By age 15, I had been smoking, drinking, was no longer a virgin for several years and I was ready to end my life. Setting in a totally out of the way place, where no-one would find me, looking at the knife, I made a decision. I made the decision to stop surviving and start living. I quit smoking and started on my way to recovery. With lots of help and support along the way coming from unlikely places, I began to overcome the destructive lifestyle I had been raised in.
Thankfully the Lord blessed me with a wonderful preacher's son. I had my last alcoholic beverage three days before we married nearly 30 years ago.
With much love, Paul's parents taught me the Bible and helped nurture me in my relationship with my Creator. We've been blessed with a beautiful family which we have diligently nurtured in the Scriptures.
I'm proof that no matter how bad the situation, children don't have to choose the same path they are brought up in. I loved my parents, who had many good qualities, but I didn't want to live the life they did. And I definitely didn't want that for my children.
My recovery has not been easy. I still struggle with a lot of issues. It breaks my heart beyond belief when I see other children go through horrific things. But I have learned to turn my experience into a message of hope for others. I am now thriving and others can too.
Here is a poem written by a friend and mentor who also went through abuse as a child and has ministered to children and families who have struggled through atrocities:
Justice for the Abused?
Justice attempts to speak
but, alas, it is squashed like a bug.
For the child, the molested, the abused,
their pain is shoved under the rug.
After all presented evidence
and scary court rooms day after day,
still the victim sees no justice,
for the jurors have their way.
The victim is still hurting,
even though the parent will deny
the truth of the molestation.
Some parents don't even ask, "Why?".
The victim thinks "Why did I bother
to tell what the abuser did?
No one can help me now, I bet,
the horrible truth is well hid".
The victim obtaining no justice
trapped in the web of defeat
will endure the disgusting abuse
the abuser will assuredly repeat.
One thing is of value.
The guilty has been accused.
Perhaps it may help to soften the pain
and bring healing and strength to the abused.
The victims may become survivors,
through counseling, love, and prayer.
To find each day worth living,
and learn their pain to bear.
Justice means: to uphold what is just,
to give a penalty as deserved,
to punish the one who has done the wrong.
When is justice really served?
Will the abused ever find Justice?
Will they ever feel any relief?
How will You listen when they tell?
Will You react in disbelief?
Written by a Survivor, Donna Mae Carrico, February 27, 1992
Followers of Jesus Christ Ministries was established in 1984 by David and Donna Carrico, with several areas of ministry. Donna is a Bible study teacher, speaker, musician, researcher, editor and author. Together with David, they do personal ministry for survivors of abuse or other spiritual problems, marital problems, or for anyone who wants to be Free through Jesus Christ. They have also done street ministry and hospital, nursing home, and mental facilities visits, as well as being guests on several TV, radio, and short wave programs. They currently run The Doctrine Of Christ Series podcast for Apple and Android, FOJC Radio Remnant Gathering podcast, NYSTV Midnight Ride on YouTube, and FOJC Radio on Brighteon.
I was a slow reader. I distinctly remember a discussion with my 6th grade teacher about my test scores. I was at a 2nd grade reading level at the time. I seriously wanted to read better, but struggled so much.
I know now it was partially because of my lazy eyes. She told me to read more. I did. Within two years I was reading so much I had to be “grounded” from books. It still took finally going to the right eye doctor and getting prisms in my glasses to get my comprehension and speed up. It took lots of hard work and determination, amid many humiliating moments along the way.
Here are some things I've found that help with all the different learning styles, struggles, and disabilities I've encountered so far:
I hope this post is encouraging to you. If you can think of any other little helps to add to this, please leave them in the comment. That would be so nice. I love comments!
P.S. I do use pretty bookmarks, but I still write down words on the back that I want to look up or remember. For older children, this helps build vocabulary skills as their reading level increases. (Yes, I’m still a child!) Also… The first child is the only one we made it all the way through the 100 Easy Lessons book. I love the principles in the book, but be careful not to become a slave to having to finish it. Some children, advance too quickly and some need a lot more practice in between…
Ever feel like you’ve been pruned to the roots, to the point that there is nothing more to prune without digging the whole plant up, burning it & planting a totally new seed?
I felt that way in the 2010's. I thought maybe I had hit bottom, learned what I needed to learn from that particular episode of my life and was ready to climb out of my little pit & tackle the next mountain in my life. Then… Kah-Boom! I would get hit again.
I felt like Paul in the Bible in Romans 7:15 (ESV):
"For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate."
Back then, I pored my heart out about the misunderstandings I had faced, others pointing me out as critical, self-righteous, and hypocritical. I was even ostracized and called a witch.
I've realized how others see me doesn't really matter. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.
More times than not, conviction and cognitive dissonance come out of people through anger and mockery. Some people, I have found, never let go of the bitterness and are perfectly happy to lash that out on an innocent bystander.
These people see efforts toward reconciliation as attempts to justify or manipulate.
I've learned some valuable lessons:
Sometimes, it's okay to have a pity-party. It's okay to mourn the injustices of life. It's okay to take time to hurt. We have so many examples in the Bible of great people of Faith pouring out their hearts in grief and despair. God didn't just say get over it. He had those very personal, hard moments preserved through centuries in His Book for us to take comfort from, so we would know we are not alone.
It is probably recorded best in James 1:2-5:
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him."
If you are struggling today, or have just come out of a battle, please share it with me. Either comment below or email me . I'm so encouraged knowing I am not alone. I love hearing from you!
Our friend Joyce has put it really well here. She is a mother to three adorable little'ns. Their family brought some friends and helped us build fence after the devastating wildfires of 2017. They've been such a blessing to us. I'm thrilled to be able to share her wisdom with you.
Our skin and our mucous membranes are our first line of defense for immunity. Shouldn’t you be more concerned about taking care of your immune system since THAT is what actually fights covid-19?
Thank you so much, Joyce for letting me publish this here! Joyce is a Plexis distributor. If you're interested in some supplements, those are really good. Our family has enjoyed them. I encourage you to visit her Plexis site.
This has not been the first pandemic to hit the world, and it will not be the last. The SAD, standard American diet has not prepared us for fighting illness of any sort. With all the different auto-immune issues and allergies people face today, I wonder how much is brought on by the processed foods and beverages we take in. Of course, I believe more people should pursue country life. While we definitely don't escape the ravages of this world, I tend to believe our quality of life is much better overall than those stuck in cities.
We do have several with allergies in our home and one with pretty bad asthma. I'm looking forward to getting some of these made and seeing how well they work.
I think if we use felt for the mouth area, it would give extra filtration... Plus putting a pocket area in for extra filters if someone is needing more. If you want to donate these, someone might want or need to add some extra. I bet a coffee filter folded in half would work.
For basic home and family use purposes, woven cotton, flannel and felt should work very nicely. I bet these are going to be used a lot more often in our country and others who haven't had the habit, once this is over.
For more extreme cases, like those going through cancer treatment, dialysis and such, they may need more protection. I'm not sure if we could find "carbon filters" as one pattern suggested but I was thinking about getting some activated charcoal and soak inserts after washing...
I made the mistake of not checking sizing on a printable pattern recently and ended up with a whole bunch of pot holders that are too small for big hands to use... Learn from my mistake! LOL
Again, on a sober note... Our lives are changing. We're seeing unprecedented things happening around the world. Perspectives will change. The wildfires did that for us three years ago. We'll never see our world the same again. Therefore, we feel blessed to be a bit more prepared for this than others may be.
How are you doing? With all the scary information and funny memes... it's easy to feel lost in the shuffle. Check in with me. I'd like to help. >hug< Don't know where to start? Fill out this short, little form for a start and let me know where you are in all this, by clicking the image below:
I have several herbs I like to make into a tea regularly. Herbal teas contain lots of wonderful vitamins and minerals. I have even enjoyed this tea when I was pregnant or nursing.
Of course, any time you drink herbal tea, make sure to have it in your favorite tea cup with a silver spoon if at all possible. There's just something special about a pretty tea cup. Curl up on the couch with a good book and soft blanket and enjoy!
Do you need a new book to read with your tea? Katie Hornor has just published a top ten book in the small business franchise section of the Kindle store! Faith Like Flamingos: The Christian Business Guide to Walking Out Your Faith in Bold Color! is only $0.99 right now. I know it has been just the encouragement I have been needing.
The Benefits of Learning Sight Words
Sight words are words that we want beginning readers to recognize quickly and automatically. This automatically provides two benefits: First, it allows children to start reading early leveled texts independently. This is great for their confidence and motivation! Second, it allows children to spend less energy on common words and instead, devote the use of their reading strategies to unfamiliar words. Plus, it’s not uncommon for sight words to be impossible to sound out. Trying to sound out a word like “the” could be a frustrating and unsuccessful experience for a child! Instead, treat “the” as a sight word that she needs to recognize automatically.
Early leveled texts contain one to two short sentences per page that include sight words. The stories follow a predictable, repeated pattern and each written page is paired with a picture. Knowing sight words allows children to tackle these early texts with budding independence. Consider a story that begins each page with, “I like to…” If a child knows those three sight words, he can then use reading strategies to determine the last word in each sentence. (e.g., run, play) The focus can shift to reading strategies such as looking at the first letter and considering the sound it makes, and looking at the picture for clues.
Sight Word Activities
You can follow up the guided reading activity with guided writing. Continue to focus on the same sight words. A simple guided writing activity can be done by using the same sentence stem from the book your child read. For example, if the story used the phrase, “Here is my…” have your child write her own sentence beginning with these three words. You can support her as she fills in the last word of her choice. Your child can illustrate her sentence as well. Some children may enjoy creating more than one sentence and putting their work together to create their own book. Being able to both read and write sight words will help your child to solidify their recall.
Along with guided reading and writing, using sight word activities will help your child develop a bank of words he can quickly recall. Don’t get caught up on how quickly you are introducing your child to new words. Once he develops proficiency with two or three words, gradually introduce more, continuing to revisit the earlier words. Of course, remember to keep things fun! The activity mats are a great example of a fun activity you can do with your child that supports her learning.
I don't know how many times I heard our children quote NEST Entertainment's Pocahontas saying, "English needs to be fixed!" Have your children struggled with sight words? What have you found helpful?
I'm excited to announce a conference! The Prairie Dust Trail Festival will be a one-of-a-kind, faith-based festival held in the rural community of Woodward, Oklahoma will focus on going back to simple living on the prairie. I'm thrilled to be putting together a real life event that will empower attendees to produce a truly thriving and productive life. Make sure to subscribe to stay updated as things unfold and come together.
Some of my favorites lately have to do with food:
Traditional Cooking School is an online cooking school created by Wardee Harmon to honor her grandmother’s cooking traditions and preserve them so that future generations can enjoy the health benefits, flavors and fun of traditionally prepared foods. Wardee has some wonderful recipes.
The Townsends are on YouTube sharing recipes and the lifestyle of our revolutionary forefathers like these yummy looking 18th Century Beef Pastries.
Now I'm hungry. Have you tried any new recipes lately? Let me know in the comments below.
First of all, the word for the year I picked. Two words: & Best. The ampersand was the 27th letter of the alphabet at one point. You see I plan to narrow things down to the best but I don't intend to do it alone. I intend to collaborate with others. Working together with other talented, like-minded individuals has more potential for the best results. I'm quite excited. I'll be sharing some of those plans and ideas along the way as things unfold through the year.
Here's one of the awesome Shabby Fabrics tutorials:
What have you been enjoying lately? Do you have a word for this year? I'd love to hear from you!